When I began crafting my blog hop, I took note of the elements of other blog hops that I enjoyed. I noticed this phrase on several of them...
"FAMILY FRIENDLY ONLY"
I assumed this was aimed toward spammy nasty types who placed something vulgar on your blog hop just for kicks. I thought, "I don't really need that comment because it won't stop those types, and I can just go in and delete them myself IF it occurs."
After nearly a year of hosting my blog hop, I never had a problem until yesterday. But I don't think I was right in my assumptions. I don't think these were spammy types. I think these were folks who'll be genuinely surprised that I find their blog offensive. Both of these blogs used words that I try not to use, and I certainly don't want my children to use. It's a religious conviction as well as a cultural one (I'm in the South, y'all).
One had the "B" word in the title of her log, which meant that every time my daughter came by the screen, I was trying to move it so she wouldn't read it. She has been exposed to the with the word (thanks to TV) but I don't want it to become one she uses, at least while she's under my realm of influence.
The other one didn't drop the "F-bomb" until you got to her page, but then it and others were peppered everywhere. Again, I don't think she set out to offend, but since this is normal in her world, I don't know that having a guideline of "FAMILY FRIENDLY ONLY" would have helped, since the use of this language is "friendly" in her family anyway.
SO what do I do?
- I've deleted them and will continue to do so if they return unchanged. It just isn't welcome on my blog hop.
- I'm going to have to add a line to my guidelines after all. I don't know what that will be exactly, but maybe it will prevent this in the future.
After going back and forth with how I should address the ones affected, I have to realize that my religious and cultural convictions are NOT going to be appreciated by everyone (a bit of a puzzle to me, since being in a saving relationship with Jesus Christ has given me a wonderful life, free from anxiety and guilt). However, I would like to hope that they'll be RESPECTED once I state them on my blog hop guidelines. we'll see.